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Honestly, until last year my fear of rejection was

Honestly, until last year my fear of rejection was the WORST! It got so bad that I didn’t ring the dentist for four years because I couldn’t deal with them telling me they didn’t have any appointments.

I did some serious work with my therapist on this last year. Still, I think my biggest inspo was seeing @wambamphotography ask for anything and everything all the time with absolutely no fear or shame, so I started trying it myself.
I started with small, irrelevant things first, and then I worked up to bigger, more important things. Not only did I learn that 8 times out of 10, the answer is a yes, because people do want to help you, but also, if people do say no, it means nothing more and nothing less than a ‘no’.

This will sound ridiculous to most of the population😂 but I know that I cannot be alone. I hope #rejection#relateable

ad Where are all of my ‘can get to sleep fine bu

ad Where are all of my ‘can get to sleep fine but wake up at 2am with 10,000 completely irrational thoughts and can’t get back to sleep’ girlies?🙋🏻‍♀️

I’ve recently got my hands on the @emmasleepuk Hug weighted blanket and its been a game changer for my anxious, overthinking nights. That, paired with keeping a notebook by my bed to write down any thoughts/ things I need to do has definitely helped me a lot!

Comment below the things that help you, so we can help each other out 👇🏼

Emma’s having a huge New Year Sale,
You can use my code VICTORIANIAMHSLEEP for an additional 5% off the sale price!

#wakeupwithemma #emmamattress #anxiety

Do you want to know one of the main reasons why I

Do you want to know one of the main reasons why I think girls and women end up feeling so insecure?

Because we are taught from such a young age that our bodies are the most interesting things about us.

So, we will go through pain, restriction, punishment, and so much more in the hope that if we can push that bit further towards the beauty standard from where we currently are, we will feel successful. We will be happy.

But when that feeling of success or happiness wears off or doesn’t come at all, we’re left feeling like we didn’t try hard enough. There is more work to be done. More to change.

It doesn’t matter how much you change, shrink or enhance your outer appearance. You will always fall short if you’re not taking care of what’s going on in your heart and mind.

‘You can be beautiful, but know that it’s the least interesting thing about you.’✨
#confidence#theglowupisaninsidejob

This doesn't mean to say that anyone is a bad pers

This doesn't mean to say that anyone is a bad person. It just means that they're not the right person for you in your life at this point.
Instead of spending your limited energy on them, you get to spend it on 1 of the other billion people on the planet who wants to offer you the love and commitment you want and deserve.✨
#friendship#selflove

The first time I properly committed to a diet was

The first time I properly committed to a diet was when I was 18 and wanted the best body I could have for my career as a dancer.

I had no idea what I was doing, but I told myself that if my weight went down on the scale, it was a success. I formed such an unhealthy relationship with the scale that it would ultimately dictate my mood, and no weight ever felt low enough. Before I realised it, I’d fallen entirely out of control and developed an eating disorder.

The second time I committed to a diet was one year after my recovery. I just wanted to ‘tone up’ for a holiday and ended up doing bikini competing. Trying to sustain such a low body fat, I developed alopecia and no periods, but the real struggle came when I started to eat normally again. The ‘fitspo’ identity that I’d given myself made me feel so ashamed of eating, so I would secretly eat in my room, and the year of food restrictions led to binges and eating until I couldn’t move.

It took me years to heal my metabolism and even longer than that to normalise my relationship with food and body. I regret giving so much of my time and headspace to dieting because I didn’t believe I was enough as I was.

I was just an ordinary girl who innocently went on a diet to have a better body. Please trust me when I say it isn’t worth it. Your ‘now’ body is enough.🖤
#dietculture#bodyimage

Happy New Year lovelies ✨🥳 I took a much nee

Happy New Year lovelies ✨🥳

I took a much need detox from instagram and brought in the new year in Lanzarote with some of my favourite people ✨

My main intention for this year is to be where my feet are aka be present. Instead of panicking trying to tick off all of my goals in the first week (like usual 🙂), I’m choosing to take it slow and trust that what’s for me won’t pass me by!

Wishing all of you the most love, success and happiness for 2023- I can’t wait to share the ride with youuu⭐️
#nye#confidence

I didn’t achieve all of my goals this year, but

I didn’t achieve all of my goals this year, but I didn’t achieve them while surrounded by so much love- so really, I’m winning!✨

Thank you for all of your support this year. You’s keep me going more than you’ll ever know! 🙏🏼

I’m signing off until the new year, so I wish you a beautiful Christmas (if you celebrate it) and a happy and healthy new year 🎄✨

Love you a lot💛
#2022recap #memories

I asked Alexa for some ‘feel good’ music to ma

I asked Alexa for some ‘feel good’ music to make some fun videos, and she hit me with Zoe Wees 🙂

A note on grief over Christmas: The more we think about it being a time of togetherness with our loved ones, the more we’re reminded of the empty seats around the table.

It’s painful but also beautiful that we’ve been able to experience a love so strong that we feel so much pain in their absence.

If you’re grieving the loss of someone special to you, whether you lost them this year or years ago, it’s ok to take a minute to let it out. It’s ok to have a sob during, what’s meant to be, the happiest time of the year. It’s ok the call things off if you’re not feeling up to it. It’s also ok to be happy because although they’re no longer with you in person, they’re always with you in spirit. ⭐️

#grief#christmas

Press and hold the screen to read each tip (sorry

Press and hold the screen to read each tip (sorry there is a lot of writing and little time) ⚡️

I asked you what content you wanted from me and there was an overflow of requests for help around Christmas food guilt.

I restricted before Christmas, I’ve over exercised to compensate for calories, I’ve binged out before starting a diet after Christmas, and honestly, none of it prevented food guilt. Mastering Tip number 2, probably had the biggest impact on me, and helped me step out of the mindset of ‘I need to eat as much as I can to the point where I can’t move because I’m not allowed any of this as of tomorrow’.

If you eat more than usual over Christmas- so what?
If you gain abit of weight over Christmas- so what?

(Referring to tip number 4) you’re never going to look back and be fuming you over ate, or gain a few pounds, you’re going to cherish the time spent with the people you love because that’s all what really matters 💛
#foodguilt#foodfreedom#confidence

It’s enzo humping the pouffe for me 🙂 It’s

It’s enzo humping the pouffe for me 🙂

It’s peak Christmas party weekend and I want to remind you that if you think somebody looks amazing or you love their outfit, go and tell them! Even if it’s a random stranger. People can appear confident, but you never know what they’re thinking inside, and your compliment could make their whole night✨

(I’m not saying this for you to compliment me btw 😂, the message just ties in with my sparkly outfit)

#christmaspartyoutfit#confidence

The teenage girls making a TikTok when I was drove

The teenage girls making a TikTok when I was drove past, making me reminisce on what I was like at that age.

The man walking down the road in his head to toe festive gear who made me proper smile.

The girl who complimented my jumper.

My mum driving round to my house with a winter cold survival pack when I was Ill last week.

My friends FaceTiming me to check in and have a chat.

Mike bring me a brew and a biscuit when I got home.

All seemingly insignificant things, that have had a positive lasting impact on my day/ life.
You just existing do that for other people too. Those things you do because they’re second nature. The smile you made to a stranger. Holding the door open, texting your mate to see how they are.

It all matters, and because of that YOU matter more than you will ever know.

Tag somebody who has impacted your life 💛

#loveiseverywhere#mindfulness

One of my biggest regrets is the time I wasted and

One of my biggest regrets is the time I wasted and anxiety I caused myself through counting calories and tracking my food.

I thought I was doing it to be healthier, but instead it made me obsess about food and feel guilty if I’d go over my target.

I know I have a history of eating disorders, but I know first hand through speaking to friends that you don’t have to have an eating disorder for tracking foods to very quickly become obsessive and take control of your life.

I just want to remind you, that you don’t have to track your food to be healthier, and actually a healthy mindset towards food is so much more valuable.

Life is literally way to short to spend 30 minutes- an hour a day adding up your food ⚡️#foodie#confidence#eatwithme

A birthday fairy takes Berlin 🧚‍♀️ 🎂

A birthday fairy takes Berlin 🧚‍♀️ 🎂

It’s the burger juice dripping down my face for me 🍔😂

When I was younger, I thought by 28 I was going to have a husband, children and a job that had set me up for life. Apart from @mikerobtraining being my unofficial hubby, I don’t have any of that- I’m just happy to be alive. I’m happy to have good mates, and happy to have interests and a love for doing things that feel exciting for me ⭐️

I think, if younger me saw this version of 28, she’d be equally as pleased 💛#birthdaygirl#berlin

I value practising self-care by listening to my bo

I value practising self-care by listening to my body and resting when I need it, but it doesn’t mean I find it easy.

Friday to Sunday, I’ll sit on my back side doing sweet FA no problem. But having to rest during the week when I should be working gives me low key anxiety- I’m not going to lie.

Anyone else who’s caught the cough/cold/ flu/ whatever it is going round- this is your reminder that it’s ok to do nothing. We need chill as much as we need productivity.

We’re not wasting time or life by choosing slow days & rest. ✌🏻 💛
#rest#productivity#selfcare

Dear all of my serial people pleasers,⁣ ⁣ All

Dear all of my serial people pleasers,⁣
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All of the most powerful, talented, kind hearted women of this world have an entourage of haters who will do and say whatever they can to have somebody change in a way that is more digestible and less threatening towards them. ⁣
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Do you know what genuinely changed my life? When I was hit with the realisation that I’m not here to have the whole world like me.⁣
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I’d rather be liked by a handful of diamonds who want to accept the WHOLE me, flaws and all, rather than show up 12 different forms for 12 different groups of people before going home and wondering who the hell I *really* am?!⁣
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Grant yourself the permission to like you whether they like you or not✨⁣
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All my love,⁣
Vic xx
#peoplepleaser#confidence

ad My only motivation to leave the house this morn

ad My only motivation to leave the house this morning was my new coat😂

It's like a sleeping bag & radiator in coat form, and it's fair to say that @dare2b_sports have created my new favourite winter coat as part of their Luxe Lifestyle collection!

#sundaywalks#ootd

May your Christmas be as shiny as my killer boots

May your Christmas be as shiny as my killer boots ✨🎄

Party season has arrriveddd! Let me just remind you to wear whatever the F makes YOU feel fabulous gals🥂

#sparkleseason#ootn#confidence

It’s December 1st, which means more socialising

It’s December 1st, which means more socialising in one month than I do for the rest of the year.

With socialising comes, social anxiety, self-sabotaging self-talk, and this belief that when we walk into a room, the spotlight is on us, and every single person is thinking or saying something about us.

Please remember, nobody sees you the way you see yourself! Your insecurities, self-doubts and fears are not tattooed onto your forehead for everyone to see. The things you focus on are not what other people focus on- so please OWN yourself! 💛
#socialanxiety#confidence

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